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This feeling that we need to guard ourselves, and the extra work that it takes to discern our true friends, creates ificant additional stress for us. Do you think the impaired trust and chronic stress that African-Americans feel might be contributing to the difficulty of retaining black employees? And do you think that our mutual distrust allows us to have solid interpersonal and working relationships?
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A version of this article appeared in the November issue of Harvard Business Review.
Keith A. Caver is the group director of client and assessment services at the Center for Creative Leadership in Greensboro, North Carolina. Ancella B.